20 Self-Confidence Traps Holding Smart People Back
everybody ever felt unconfidence at school, work, public, or wherever. it seems like you are small. probably because your weakness makes you shy and afraid to join the world. here i tell you: “nobody on this planet is perfect”.
so, here there are some tips for you guys ‘the wallflowers’ to make yourselves be confidence and everyone else will be like they are nothing.
- Using weak body language – Such as crossing your arms, not smiling, looking down, and not making eye contact
- Hesitating to speak up in groups – Whether in a meeting, social setting, or a public speaking situation
- Avoiding interaction with anyone new – Being unable to initiate new connections or approach someone you want to meet
- Weak verbal communication – Speaking with a low voice, ending sentences with questions, or sounding really nervous
- Fear of trying new things or taking on challenges – Difficulty taking actions that stretch your comfort zone or feel even slightly uncomfortable, even if you know they will improve your life
- Hesitating to ask for what you want or need – Inability to confidently express your desires because you don’t feel worthy
- Resistance to letting go of past failures and mistakes – Dwelling in negative thinking and embarrassment of what happened long ago
- Not trusting your own judgment – Feeling your ability to solve problems, make decisions, initiate ideas, or take assertive action is compromised or not as sound as your peers
- Indecisiveness – Not trusting your own judgment enough to even begin to know what you want
- Letting others make your decisions for you – Letting the opinions of others dictate your reality
- Fantasizing about not being successful enough – Feeling intimidated around people perceived as being more successful or accomplished than you
- Feelings of jealously or resentment towards successful people– Projecting your insecurities and longings into negative feelings and behaviors towards others
- Expressing no motivation to take action – Feeling depressed or defeated and seeing action as useless or too difficult
- Purposeful self-sabotage – Creating a situation that makes it impossible to succeed so you’ll have an excuse for failing, or to justify why others should feel sorry for you
- Needing constant external validation – Not just in personal relationships, but from bosses, co-workers, teachers, clients, and peers
- Fear of rejection – Constantly worried that others will purposely shun you or hurt you
- Extreme self-consciousness about how other people perceive you – Feeling painfully shy and uncomfortable about your intelligence and your appearance
- Highly focused on physical appearance and physical flaws – Constant need to check your appearance, compare yourself to others, or obsess about parts of your face or body, at the detriment to everything else
- Establishing no personal boundaries with others – Allowing others to take advantage of you simply because you don’t have the confidence to say “no”
- Being overly accommodating or people pleasing – Completely ignoring your own values, needs, or desires to win affection and approval
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